tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post55519136712137892..comments2024-03-13T06:31:17.010-04:00Comments on Susan Says: Question of the Month And the Spirit of the SeasonSusan Gourley/Kelleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02669793865290876168noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-88941556142159610472015-12-10T22:08:57.384-05:002015-12-10T22:08:57.384-05:00The name change thing, to me, is up to the woman a...The name change thing, to me, is up to the woman and what she wants to do and other than that, none of my business. To each their own fun and ways. The Happy Whiskhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13438469476168485775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-768512098121232712015-12-09T11:29:40.753-05:002015-12-09T11:29:40.753-05:00I can't get in the holiday spirit at home anym...I can't get in the holiday spirit at home anymore so we don't put up a tree or decorate, but I do like going to our Old Town to see all the lights or to the stores to see decorations. And I keep a radio station on in the car that plays Christmas music 24/7. And sometimes even make a batch of Christmas cookies. So I guess I'm not grinchy so much, just lazy.Patricia Stolteyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192369425956406122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-91650172427593535782015-12-09T03:08:24.147-05:002015-12-09T03:08:24.147-05:00For some reason I've yet to discover my daught...For some reason I've yet to discover my daughter-in- law in Spain still uses her maiden name.<br />A wonderful post to read Susan.<br />Yvonne.nashvillecats2https://www.blogger.com/profile/02326956741209246895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-80045642395529802322015-12-08T20:49:32.716-05:002015-12-08T20:49:32.716-05:00The holiday spirit never grabs me. I'm a certi...The holiday spirit never grabs me. I'm a certified Grinch. I try to make it fun for my kiddo though. Also, we celebrate Christmas, even though it's really just the giving/receiving side of it and that's it. So I don't really care if people say happy holidays or merry christmas or joyous kwanzaa or whatever. At least they're being nice to me during this stressful time, right?<br /><br />I think if my Other and I make it paper official, I'll likely change my name. Mostly because his is way better than mine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-25389039882907706462015-12-08T17:05:55.984-05:002015-12-08T17:05:55.984-05:00Mary's maiden name was Kacka, and you can imag...Mary's maiden name was Kacka, and you can imagine what the Mexican kids in her neighborhood did with that. She was more than happy to change it. <br /><br />Mary and I celebrate the Feast of the Nativity on December 25. It's Christmas, but without the hoopla.John Holtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00545030511941957804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-6707511536323493352015-12-08T09:21:50.994-05:002015-12-08T09:21:50.994-05:00I hyphenated my name, and even though it's ver...I hyphenated my name, and even though it's very long (and I didn't take that into consideration at the time!), I still love it. :)<br /><br />Since we're in our new home for this Christmas, we're still floundering a bit re decorations, but we'll get there, hopefully this week or weekend. Madeline Mora-Summontehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05529397293165046430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-71994759230630615242015-12-08T08:08:45.456-05:002015-12-08T08:08:45.456-05:00I made a mess of it. Changing your last name is ea...I made a mess of it. Changing your last name is easy peasy but I changed it on work docs and my license forgetting to go thru social security. As a result I spent 10 years thinking I had my husbands name only to have my job do a benefit review and flag me. Not cool since I was the head of HR. LoL. I changed my as card and now I'm all legal. As for holiday spirit the older the kids get the harder it is. They lose some of their fascination since many of their friends don't give it the same splash we do. Fortunately the rest of my extended family loves Christmas so I eventually get caught up :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13164269285285491186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-49845262452987048772015-12-08T07:57:29.900-05:002015-12-08T07:57:29.900-05:00The last name thing is really interesting. I think...The last name thing is really interesting. I think it's happened quite suddenly that taking the man's last name is no longer a given. I've talked to multiple people about it and they've either hyphenated their names, kept their own or the man's taken the woman'sAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09063165966816632456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-32323082041399147882015-12-08T01:30:15.414-05:002015-12-08T01:30:15.414-05:00I would be fine with changing my last name. Even t...I would be fine with changing my last name. Even though it's short and simple, people still mispronounce or misspell it. <br /><br />You sound full of Christmas cheer! I've had Christmas music playing since mid-November and I'm sitting in my living room next to the tree. I even have some gifts picked out for my friends already, which is very early for me :)Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165210377903518274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-25897139620005388172015-12-07T22:37:41.603-05:002015-12-07T22:37:41.603-05:00My sister didn't change her name when she got ...My sister didn't change her name when she got married; it was funny because we had a Polish long spelling hard to pronounce name and she could have gone to something simple like Brown (but it wasn't Brown, but another very common name). I on the other hand, though love my family, always had struggled with having to spell the name for others and pronouncing it for others, so I was glad to take my hubby's name. It is spelled different with an "on" instead of "en" that is more common, but its easier than spelling a 10 letter long hard to pronounce name :)<br /><br />Sounds like you have so many fun activities in store and have already done some fun stuff :) Good to be festive.<br /><br />I honestly struggle with holiday cheer. December has not been a kind month with claiming beloved family members and other events. Maybe with the new grandchild, holidays will be festive in the years to come :)<br /><br />bettybettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323135450742337670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-88794584519811276692015-12-07T22:32:10.588-05:002015-12-07T22:32:10.588-05:00I changed my name twice. To me it reflects a commi...I changed my name twice. To me it reflects a commitment to my husband but then I am of a much older generation LOL. I honestly can't think of a social convention I would like to get rid of. We decorated over the weekend which helps towards feeling the Christmas spirit I think.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087140585742801854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-47109921843189808682015-12-07T19:17:19.651-05:002015-12-07T19:17:19.651-05:00Very true, good friends and family can bring out t...Very true, good friends and family can bring out the cheer.<br /><br />Yeah, stupid to force anyone or think they have to. Whoopi, they married you, who care if they take your name. What I think is dumb is the whole hyphenated thing. Keep yours, take his, but screw the hyphenated crap haha Pat Hatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07745293224202430152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-59476197065125772332015-12-07T17:56:26.680-05:002015-12-07T17:56:26.680-05:00The name changing can be so confusing! I have quit...The name changing can be so confusing! I have quite a few female friends who use their maiden name in professional settings, and their husband's name socially :)Jemi Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02214408467456320167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-37690318211665927732015-12-07T17:13:31.081-05:002015-12-07T17:13:31.081-05:00This is a good point. So many use their maiden nam...This is a good point. So many use their maiden name as a middle name. Ann Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17759967601352382204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-54168486249733365632015-12-07T17:02:37.006-05:002015-12-07T17:02:37.006-05:00This is a great answer Susan. If you asked men to ...This is a great answer Susan. If you asked men to change their name to the wifes name you can bet your bottom dollar they wouldn't do it, so why should we? When I got married back in 1982 I just did it without thinking. Now I've been known by that name for decades so if I got married again I wouldn't change it. Too much work.BBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09432729957196570774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-16301744321797549632015-12-07T16:07:15.810-05:002015-12-07T16:07:15.810-05:00Legally changing your name is quite a difficult pr...Legally changing your name is quite a difficult process, so I'm not sure I'd ever do it. And it does seem silly that people, mostly women, are expected to change their last names. You should only do it if you want to, not because you feel like you have to.<br /><br />Happy wrapping!J E Oneilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09780097298061829471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-69780752181532732942015-12-07T12:21:19.109-05:002015-12-07T12:21:19.109-05:00Ahhh I should have totally picked that one!!! I go...Ahhh I should have totally picked that one!!! I got married in July and I still refuse to change my last name. It's just too much work and I like my original name!Jaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942630725082121374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-75835761632082786722015-12-07T12:14:39.894-05:002015-12-07T12:14:39.894-05:00Women having to change their last name is an odd t...Women having to change their last name is an odd tradition. But I'm actually looking forward to shedding my maiden name.<br /><br />I'm glad you're in the holiday spitit. I'm getting there. :)Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-24535188513957645672015-12-07T12:14:36.699-05:002015-12-07T12:14:36.699-05:00Women having to change their last name is an odd t...Women having to change their last name is an odd tradition. But I'm actually looking forward to shedding my maiden name.<br /><br />I'm glad you're in the holiday spitit. I'm getting there. :)Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-89646624670948438062015-12-07T11:53:01.812-05:002015-12-07T11:53:01.812-05:00This year the Christmas spirit is slow to come, bu...This year the Christmas spirit is slow to come, but I'm working on it. No tree, but there's other stuff out and some friends coming for a party. Sharing time with friends this time of year is what triggers the spirit in me.cleemckenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456109243453726483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-42263155772198861482015-12-07T11:52:54.935-05:002015-12-07T11:52:54.935-05:00This year the Christmas spirit is slow to come, bu...This year the Christmas spirit is slow to come, but I'm working on it. No tree, but there's other stuff out and some friends coming for a party. Sharing time with friends this time of year is what triggers the spirit in me.cleemckenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456109243453726483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-37568836164309895302015-12-07T11:39:36.543-05:002015-12-07T11:39:36.543-05:00My wife was very happy to take on my last name. Si...My wife was very happy to take on my last name. Since she's from Ecuador she had a Hispanic last name. Her parents had given her an Anglo first name at birth so now her name doesn't indicate at all her ethnic background and she seems to like that a great deal. In fact her daughter has a similar situation.<br /><br />Especially when children are involved, having different names in a household might lead to confusion. But maybe not so much once people acclimated to the concept.<br /><br />Arlee Bird<br /><a href="http://wrotebyrote.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Wrote By Rote</a><br /><br />Arlee Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-82853488716012315102015-12-07T10:57:07.259-05:002015-12-07T10:57:07.259-05:00I'm indifferent to name changes--I think peopl...I'm indifferent to name changes--I think people should do what's convenient. :)<br /><br /><br />Sorry to leave a link, Blogger won't allow my wordpress comment:<br /><a href="http://damyantiwrites.wordpress.com" rel="nofollow">Daily (w)rite</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04283371140346602856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-68235535283148245312015-12-07T10:31:30.122-05:002015-12-07T10:31:30.122-05:00Which last name I took didn't matter much to m...Which last name I took didn't matter much to me. In the end it's how you treat that name during your life and not where it came from.Maria Zanninihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01604862636922299273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-556528429571644528.post-46420938216203538872015-12-07T10:27:31.325-05:002015-12-07T10:27:31.325-05:00I love my maiden name: Burton. It sounds British a...I love my maiden name: Burton. It sounds British and respectful for some reason, and there's wacky Uncle Tim! ;) But I changed my name when I got married to Narayan because I'm a traditionalist and because of something my sister-in-law pointed out to me: that she wanted to have the same last name as her children. For some reason this struck me as important though I'm not sure I could justify it. In any case, if I ever need a pseudonym, I will use Burton. Plus, whenever a store clerk asks for my email, by the time I finish spelling it out loud with all six As, we are both giggling.Tamara Narayanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03725262301091012950noreply@blogger.com