So how do you write from the POV of the opposite sex? Carefully. All my books have scenes from the POV of male and female. Am I making my men to 'metrosexual.' How's that blast from the past term? LOL. In epic fantasy, the men need to be manly men. Does that mean he must not only be able to ride wild horses, slay dozens with his sword and eat red meat for six meals a day? Must he be confused by a woman's tears, afraid of discussing his feelings, reluctant to get deeply involved?
How can I get this 'man' brain thing correct? I listen. I watch. I laugh. Teenage males are really amusing as they swing like a pendulum between being boys and young men. One minute they're trying to impress the girls and the next minute they're arguing about some video game with their buddies. And adult guys tend to do the same thing except the topics change a bit.
I often wonder if I'm doing it right. The real test is if men enjoy reading my epic fantasy books. I've had some positive feedback from the male audience, so I hope I'm doing it okay.
Do male writers worry about the same thing? Have you ever read a book where the author didn't hit the mark writing from the POV of the opposite sex?